Divorce can be emotionally taxing on a person. In fact, divorce can trigger one -- if not all three -- types of trauma: acute, complex and post-traumatic stress disorder. In dealing with any type of trauma, the brain is hardwired to protect a person, which in many cases mean the fight or flight response will kick in. However, this type of response does not always lead to the best decisions being made, for not only the person going through the divorce, but also for their children.
Deciding to get a divorce is typically never a split-second decision. Rather, it is quite normal for the husband or wife -- or in some cases even both spouses -- to think about asking for a divorce for some time before the question is finally popped. During this time of contemplating divorce, before actually asking, it is normal for some to wonder what the right decision to make is and if divorce is what he or she truly wants.
Parenting is certainly not always easy. Even in families where both parents are still together, it can often be hard for both mom and dad to come to agreements on how to raise their children. In the cases of divorce, at times, it can even feel downright impossible.
No one likes anyone in their business, especially when it's about divorce. The truth is that even in cases where a person knows that getting a divorce is the best thing for their family, and their personal well-being, it still may not be on anyone's list of top favorite things to talk about with friends, family and coworkers. However, people going through a divorce should be prepared, for as the word gets out, others will most likely be asking questions.
Being a divorced parent can be frustrating and emotionally draining. However, when both ex-spouses take the time to learn to let go and forgive, children can benefit from having grounded parents. Of course, this isn't something that happens overnight, but rather something both spouses have to work on.