While some couples may be able to keep their cool -- or even get along -- during a divorce, when it comes to child custody decisions no two parents should ever just assume that they are always going to continue to agree on everything when it comes to raising their children. Even if the divorce went smoothly, issues can still arise in the future.
It is hard to not continue to hold a grudge after a divorce in Illinois. Maybe there were hurtful things said during the divorce? Or maybe there was a bitter child custody dispute where each parent wanted sole custody, but now each are sharing responsibilities with joint custody and co-parenting? Whatever the case may be, having to continue to communicate in a civil manner can be downright impossible for some divorced parents.
Parents in Illinois who are preparing for divorce should know their children are going to have lots of questions. Some of these questions may be hard to answer as the kids could be visibly upset. However, to get through these questions, parents should pay attention to what the children are really looking for, which is typically affirmation not the actual answers to why mom and dad are splitting up.
In our last post we talked about some divorce trends that many Illinois residents can relate to. These trends include the fact that the overall divorce rate is actually declining, that many older Americans are the ones filing for divorce, and that there are factors -- many times outside of one's control -- that lead to divorce.
When one parent wants to move out of the state with the children, the parent in Illinois cannot just pack up and move. Rather, the other parent needs to approve of this move. If the other parent does not approve, both will most likely find themselves in court trying to convince a judge why this move should or should not happen.