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Divorce advice, Part 2: a few careful thoughts and tips

10361097_S.jpgWe referenced the wide world of divorce advice in our immediately preceding blog post (please see our October 22 entry), noting that it ranges widely from truly inane and useless writings to quite perceptive reflections and tips for surviving -- even thriving throughout -- the process.

We alluded to one particular article discussing divorce in that post, promising readers a closer look at some of its author's observations in today's post.

Divorce info and advice: ubiquitous and varied in its quality

11717348_S.jpgGiven the centrality of divorce as a recurrently relevant and timely topic in American life, it is hardly surprising that dissolution-related stories, question-answer pamphlets, topical primers, do-it-yourself guides and other subject-specific focuses on this subject are always front and center.

After all, scores of millions of individuals and families across the country can relate.

For understandable reasons, persons in Illinois, Missouri and nationally who are contemplating divorce or just beginning to get their feet wet while engaging the process want to know as much useful information about it as possible.

Divorce tips for promoting common ground in child custody matters

31863705_S.jpgAs we have noted for readers in select prior posts, and as family law commentators widely note quite often in divorce-related tracts and articles, the marital dissolution process is flatly unique in every case.

There is simply no doubt about that. No two families are the same. Nor are the circumstances that initially brought a couple together or later worked collectively to separate married partners and bring them to the so-called divorce table.

Notwithstanding, though, that divorce particulars will necessarily vary in every case, many divorces do share some common ground in one critically important area.

Family law focus: alternatives to donning the gloves in court

11287694_S.jpgWhen it comes to family law disputes in Illinois, Missouri or anywhere else in the country, it is a basic truism to note that simply girding for battle with your soon-to-be ex in court is not the only game in town.

Generally speaking, that is. Sometimes, in fact, taking matters to a judge in the austere and clinical confines of a courtroom is indeed the best of all available options. Couples frequently underestimate the intractability of a problem. With certain family law challenges, for example (a bitter property dispute comes to mind), there may be virtually no way to come to a binding legal agreement through recourse to an alternative dispute resolution (ADR) process such as mediation or collaborative law.

In other words, the discretionary -- and impressive -- power of a judge is sometimes needed to help couples reach conclusion on a matter that they would otherwise flounder resolving.

Does Illinois provide for no-fault divorce?

15399163_S.jpgThe quick and unequivocal answer to the question posed in the above headline is that, yes, Illinois law does recognize no-fault divorce. In fact, every state in the country has a no-fault scheme enabling would-be divorcing parties to proceed with a marital dissolution without the need to prove wrongdoing on the part of one party as a prerequisite to a judicial order granting divorce.

No-fault divorce has been akin to a steadily chugging train in recent decades, with legislators in states across the country progressively endorsing the concept.

Understanding no-fault divorce in Illinois or elsewhere is perhaps best achieved by contrasting it to what it has widely supplanted in family law, namely, fault divorce.

Fault versus no-fault: the evolving American divorce landscape

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It is likely hard for many Americans to even contemplate a time when divorce was essentially a taboo subject -- even for discussion -- across large parts of the country.

In former times, family law matters were kept largely under wraps, with a stigma unquestionably attaching to the term "divorce" and to parties who had gone through the process. In many locales, divorced men and women starkly stood out as markedly differentiated persons, given that divorce was an anomaly and that social norms bristled against the very notion of such a spousal decoupling.

Of course, public perceptions regarding many matters transform over time, with growing acceptance of divorce nationally being no exception. Many millions of Americans these days instantly appreciate that staying in a bad marriage is certainly not preferable to ending it and moving purposefully forward in life.

Study analyzes online dating and divorce

15084699_S.jpgDivorce can be an emotionally draining time. For parents with children, decisions need to be made on custody, as well as visitation schedules. For married couples -- with and without children -- reaching an agreement on property division, such as who will get the family home or what to do with marital property, can also turn into a nightmare. Divorcing couples may also run into issues regarding alimony and other family law issues. At points throughout the process, it is no wonder that some start to wonder if getting married was all worth it and think back to when the two first met. 

How a couple meets, either online or offline, was the recent topic of an article published in the Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking journal. The author of the article had collected data on some key differences between couples who met online and couples who met offline. The data included married and dating couples.

Domestic violence: the predominant health problem in the U.S.?

We all know that domestic violence is a recurring concern of some magnitude across the country. That sad reality has been made especially apparent recently by the explosive arrival of successive abuse-related stories involving professional athletes.

Is the problem as bad as the above headline suggests it might be, though? Does domestic abuse really outweigh other sobering national concerns on the health front?

The U.S. Surgeon General thinks it does, having gone on record to make the point.

Prenuptial agreement: It doesn't have to be so emotive

25455553_S.jpgIt sometimes seems that when the subject of premarital agreements is broached with a group of people, an emotional response is quick and evident. Nervous giggles might mingle with derisory comments, with those in turn coupled by diffident endorsements or, sometimes, outright expressions of approval.

Indeed, this particular legal instrument seems to have a distinct aura about it that can somehow make it compelling and off-putting at the same time.

Why is that?

What is the SCRA, and how does it apply to military divorce?

3764494_S.jpgFew people who actually think about the subject matter for a few moments will disagree that family law matters in the military can be profoundly different from what is typically the case in the civilian world, and on many fronts.

Many divorcing or already divorced servicemembers in Illinois and Missouri already know that from personal experience.

It is certainly true, of course, that child and spousal support considerations are focal concerns in many divorce matters, regardless of whether a dispute arises between a civilian or military couple. Many other family law issues and related disputes would also seem to similarly surface, without regard to military status.

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