On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Wednesday, October 29, 2014.
Going through a divorce can be emotionally draining enough. However, throw the threat of a heated child custody battle into the mix, and it can quickly feel overwhelming. As a parent, you want to make sure your children’s best interests are protected, while also protecting your rights as a parent. This leaves many wondering what their options are and how to proceed.
A recent Huffington Post article titled “4 Ways to Fight Your Fears During a Custody Battle” discusses some of the common worries parents have and how to overcome them. This advice could be helpful to any Illinois parent going through a divorce or thinking about filing for divorce.
The No. 1 thing to keep in mind, according to the article, is that you are not the first — nor will you be the last — person to go through a divorce. What this means is that your attorney, the judge and everyone involved has most likely seen and heard it all before. Keep this in mind if your ex is threatening to air all of your dirty laundry and bring up any mistakes you have ever made.
Along these lines, keep in mind that no one expects a parent to have a 100 percent perfect track record. Parents are human and make mistakes. According to the article, if the issues were years ago, especially before the children were born, there is a good chance that what your ex has to say about your past will not have any weight in the matter.
In terms of what will make the most sense for your children, balance is key. This means that no matter how bad the courtroom drama is, the children should always come first.
As a parent, you have certain rights. If you believe an ex is trying to impede on these rights, do not hesitate on reaching out to a family law attorney.