Divorce tips for promoting common ground in child custody matters

On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Thursday, October 16, 2014.

As we have noted for readers in select prior posts, and as family law commentators widely note quite often in divorce-related tracts and articles, the marital dissolution process is flatly unique in every case.

There is simply no doubt about that. No two families are the same. Nor are the circumstances that initially brought a couple together or later worked collectively to separate married partners and bring them to the so-called divorce table.

Notwithstanding, though, that divorce particulars will necessarily vary in every case, many divorces do share some common ground in one critically important area.

That realm centers on the children. In virtually all instances, parents — even those who are fighting tooth and nail on just about every conceivable divorce-related point — readily concede that the needs of their kids are paramount and that they need to be considered above all else in a marital split.

That is just a given, as noted by the “best interests of the child” standard that stands as a bedrock legal principle in American law.

A recent media commentary on kids and divorce focuses on the topic of post-dissolution parenting arrangements, acknowledging that things in this area can get a bit heated and sticky for some parents.

As it notes, though, common ground can often be found quite quickly when soon-to-be exes focus on what’s right rather than what’s wrong.

In other words: Searching for and then legally implementing points of agreement on child-related matters can set a positive tone and more easily allow for amicable negotiations on things that seem a bit more intractable.

If discussions remain stuck or in neutral, recourse to a professional — such as a child custody evaluator or parenting coordinator — can often promote workable solutions.

In some cases, that might also involve participation from a family law lawyer trained as a mediator or licensed as a collaborative divorce attorney.

With such assistance, notes the above-cited source, “you can greatly increase your chances of coming to a workable agreement” on divorce-related matters relating to your children.

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