On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Child Custody on Wednesday, May 25, 2016.
The perceived advantage that women appear to have in family court has confounded fathers for decades. However, traditional gender roles have dramatically changed as American families have evolved. More women are breadwinner (especially in single parent homes), and more men have chosen to stay home and raise kids. Moreover, there are more families where both parents work outside the home. Nevertheless, the bias and perceived advantage that women appear to have in family court has not seen such a change.
Despite this, it is possible for men to win custody if they follow some helpful tips.
Get a favorable temporary order – Men embroiled in custody and parenting time disputes should know that the process can take a great deal of time. Because of this, most courts will issue a temporary order to maintain the status quo before a final order is handed down. As such, a temporary can be just as important as the final order because a court is likely to follow what the temporary order calls for in order to minimize any changes the child may have to endure.
Don’t disappear – Countless men (especially those who are unmarried fathers) have sabotaged their chances to maintain custody or increase their parenting time by simply giving up before the process starts. Essentially, if mom denies parenting time, dad stops trying to obtain parenting time. Meanwhile, no emotional or practical connection is established, and dad is at a significant disadvantage.
Don’t sabotage the child’s relationship with the other parent – Judges also hate parents who bad-mouths the other parent in front of the child. While you may have legitimate concerns about the other parent (i.e. drug or alcohol abuse) you should not make the child a party to those concerns.
For additional tips on how to fare well in custody battles, an experienced family law attorney can advise you.